Dating a compulsive liar
The guy you’re dating is great and all, but there’s something a little off about him.
It’s almost like you can’t believe anything he says.
Only you will know if your partner has these issues, but if they do, it could be due to a lack of confidence and self-worth.
Compulsive liars lie in order to make themselves feel worthy of being in the world, even your world, so don’t be surprised if this is the case. Compulsive liars always stretch the truth and make up a story, as we know, so as a result of these lies, you might notice that your partner’s story changes ever so slightly pretty much every time he tells it.
Seasoned liars may find tactics to minimize the changes in their stories, but if you pay attention, you’ll catch the differences, however minor they might be.
He tries to make you feel like you’re a horrible person for calling him out on a lie.
His lying is likely connected to some greater self-esteem issues.
If he responds while averting his gaze and if he’s fidgety while responding, chances are that he’s full of crap.
Whatever the reason, some people become masters at lying, and they trick you into believing even their lies are the truth. Prior to dating him, I knew I never wanted to date someone with an alcohol or drug addiction, but I didn’t realize an addiction to lying existed.
Throughout our relationship, there were numerous times he lied to me. There’d be times I knew I was right, but he’d convince me otherwise.
When your friends ask you where you’ve been, and you say you’re “so busy” — when, in fact, you’re only hanging out with your new boyfriend — you're lying. Even at a young age, we tend to recognize telling one lie will lead to another, and then usually that lie turns into a mess and disaster.
We develop morals often after making huge mistakes, and we decide lying isn’t worth our time. There are people who learn lying is wrong, but they still do it.
At one point, I completely convinced myself I had trust issues, and I somehow made up his lies. Whether it's drugs or lying, I learned the hard way dating a person with any kind of addiction is impossible. If your immediate thought is that the person you’re talking to is lying to you, you’re probably right.