Dating a congolese man
Furthermore, as a new generation embracing and becoming more comfortable with cultural differences, might not some of us become examples for future generations of the mixed-culture couples that lasted, if we last?
By Lee Osbourne Desire Luzinda must have discovered a pot of gold in Congo Brazaville following the way she is frequently travelling there now and again.
When I spoke to another Congolese person they understood me, but when I spoke to someone who didn’t speak my mother tongue, conversations couldn’t be as natural as I wanted them to be.
A Ghanaian friend of mine told me “My (Jamaican) boyfriend really tried to speak my language because he realised that it was important to me.”Ethnic capital of the world For me, a twenty-something year old Congolese woman who grew up in the city of London – a city I like to call “the ethnic capital of Europe” – dating someone from a different culture was not a problem.
“For most of us English is not our first language, we think in our mother tongue then translate it into English.
An older woman asked me: “How many mixed cultured couples do you know who have grown old together?
” True I didn’t know any mixed elderly couples, but perhaps this is because there is a greater diversity of Africans living in the diaspora than there were 30 years ago.
If you can communicate with someone in a language that you both feel comfortable with, it makes being with that person easier.
In Africa, those who speak the same language have a similar culture.I went to a secondary school that was predominantly West African and attended a university that was predominantly white, so my choices were wide and I dated a few of those choices.