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It also strips from you the feeling of permanence or self-identification.
For ten years I had been Julie Barth, then I hadn’t a clue who I was. Just like a child who has been maltreated or left, a widower often has abandonment issues clouding their ability to reason through the complexity of a relationship.
You know what a widower’s left with when his wife dies? A man’s inability to survive without a woman is a big explanation why a widower is often a very hot ticket on the open market — he’s LOOKING to be married again. But, at a certain point, a man has to step up and give you a reasonable amount of attention and comfort.
Factor in the dearth of older men — there are literally 3 times more single women over the age of 65 — and, well, a decent looking widower doesn’t stay available for very long. And if he fails, he risks losing the woman he cares about.
No matter what age you lose your significant other, if your spouse leaves you before you leave this earth, there is always a feeling that something is amiss. I don’t know what was worse, the anticipation on the way home of having the talk with them, or the look on their faces, especially my 12-year-old, who had just lost his best friend when I told them.When you become a widower, it chases away all you thought life was going to be.