Racial discrimination online dating
Queerness does not give whites a pass to be openly racist.Most queer whites know the pain of social marginalization, yet they marginalize queer people of color in online dating communities.Ironically, even though white gay men respond to messages in general less frequently than gay men of color they fail to attract the highest rate of responses to the messages they send.Middle Eastern gay men, on average, will receive about 48 responses for every 100 messages they send, while white gay men will receive an average of 45. Response rates vary by race less among lesbian women on Ok Cupid than gay men.He is gay and Filipino and says he felt like he had no choice but to deal with the rejections based on his ethnicity as he pursued a relationship."It was hurtful at first.But I started to think, I have a choice: Would I rather be alone, or should I, like, face racism?For instance, one white man asked him, “Do you wanna make a white man your slave?” Another white man refused to believe he was Black, citing his “Chinese-looking eyes.” These are just a few stories that illustrate the effects of racism within online dating communities comprising mostly gay men.
[NOTE: It is unclear whether Ok Trends included bisexual men when calculating response rates.White lesbian women respond to Ok Cupid messages from other white women 49% of the time but respond to messages from women of color 47.6% of the time (excluding response rate to Indian women due to small sample).